So as a woman who games, I thought maybe I would give my thoughts on the issue. I’ll give a perspective from a person that can stand back and see both sides. Lady’s first.
DISCLAIMER: I’m not talking about men who game up to eight hours during the day or men who are missing family functions and work for games. I’m talking about normal gamers who spend one, two, or maybe even three hours a day gaming, multiple days a week.
Isn’t that a lot of time?
Not really. Think about it this way, two episodes of one show is an hour or two depending on the show. And if we’re being honest, we might even go for more episodes if we have the energy. After a long day at work I can easily go through five episodes of a show I like before going to bed.
So how is spending the same amount of time playing video games abnormal? If you think about it the same way you think about watching TV, it just makes sense. Doing something that you like to wind down after a long day at work. You could switch out gaming or TV with anything, reading a book, knitting, baking, or any hobby. Anything that you enjoy doing that helps you relax from being gone all day.
BUT you can watch TV together, you say.
You could also game together. But just like you can understand that sometimes you have different tastes in what TV shows is the same way you can have different tastes in hobbies.
I start TV shows that I know my guy will have no interest in, and I watch them alone. I’m not going to bore him with a show he’ll hate, but I’m also not going to deny myself the joy of a show I like. I’m going to spend my personal time enjoying something I find interesting. Keep the same mindset with hobbies. You don’t need to be around each other 24/7. Your guy knows that you are not interested in games. He feels like he should have some personal time to enjoy his hobby the same way you take personal time to enjoy things he’s not interested in.
While he’s playing his game.
Go enjoy that show you know he hates in peace.