I’ve heard this argument come up recently, and there is a big argument on both sides. Men who say they’ve had women break up after being vulnerable. And women who say being emotionally vulnerable is what women want.
Both sides are, but hear me out as to why.
Some women are very wrapped up in the idea that there is a certain way to be a man. And crying to them is a feminine thing to do. So these women will lose respect for their man if he cries around them.
Those women aren’t the only women that exist.
But if you’re a man or a woman, you will have to ask yourself if you care about emotional intelligence. Do you think both sexes should be allowed to have a full range of emotions without being judged?
First let me say that I am biased. The world is hard enough to live in. If you’re not being emotionally honest with the one you love, you’re adding another level of difficulty to life. Just because.
I couldn’t imagine living a life in which I had to bundle how I feel into a ball. Then hold it inside myself forever because I believe that no one cares and that it’s just my job to live that way. It’s a sad way to live, but it’s your choice. Because you can argue all day that women don’t care, and that is just how men have to live, but there are men who aren’t living that way. Which means you don’t have to.
Because you can’t tell me that my man being vulnerable with me isn’t one of the sexiest and most attractive parts of our relationship. I’m not here to convince you, but I have no reason to lie. You don’t get to tell me what I do and don’t find attractive or who does and doesn’t get my respect. And if you think I’m the only one, I think you might need to broaden your horizon.
Just because you haven’t found someone who can respect and honor your emotions doesn’t give you the right to say no man can, has, or ever will. Speak for yourself, but understand there are men out here that when they are home can put the weight of the world down,even if you don’t. If you continue to live that way, cool.
Suffer in silence, feel alone, take in all your pain, and cry only at your most vulnerable moments when you’re alone. But then can’t complain about it , don’t say that no one cares about men. Because I do.
I can’t get you into therapy. I’m just a blogger.
I can’t make you gain a friend group that will support you when you need it. I’m just a blogger.
I can’t be your matchmaker and find you an emotionally intelligent woman who gets it. I’m just a blogger.
But I can still want that for you. I can still care about men who feel like this is the only way they can live. I just want people to know that both sides of this coin exist and which man or woman you are is just as much a choice as who you choose to be with.